Thursday, January 04, 2007

To send or not To send

I was talking to one of my friend on Sunday and and she was talking about sending her twin sons to Nigeria next year to start high school cos she does not really trust them attending high school in the US.I went ahead to ask her which school she will be sending them to and she doesn't even know which school yet.

I started thinking if it was a good idea to actually send the kids back to Nigeria to attend high school with all the reports I keep hearing about how people in Nigeria are sending their kids to school in Ghana,South Africa and other African countries.I have a couple of my cousins in schools in Ghana and one even in South Africa.

There was a post on somebody's blog sometime ago about a private school on the Island where they actually put kids in classes according to how rich and influential their parents are.I wonder what the school system in Nigeria has turned into now,cos I remembered when I was in high school back home,education was a priority.The last time I went to my high school in Nigeria was when I went to collect my SSCE certificate and I actually cried for the students.The school was not anywhere near how it was when I was there.The environment did not even look like a learning environment.It actually looked like a Juvenile camp for boys and all the buildings were almost collapsing from lack of maintenance.All the students were walking or playing around like there was nothing to do.I could still remember how dead you are if you are caught walking around during school time back then.

I still believe that a country is not a country as long as the Government of the country is not providing basic amenities that is needed for it's citizens like good schools,good roads,power and for an average working citizen of the said country to wake up in the morning and don't have an inkling on how he is going to get one meal for that day.

I think it's only God that can give us the revolution we need to turn Nigeria around back to what it use to be.

Lemme leave you with a couple of video clips

Oprah's interview with Madea(Tyler Perry)

Girl fight ... fight fight ..LOL

How to put on a Bra..I know guys will click on this

You guys have a lovely rest of the week


At Thursday, January 04, 2007 8:15:00 AM, Blogger Discombobulated Diva said...

Me personally, If I am not living in Nigeria, I am definetly planning on sending my kids back to Nigeria for school... but I plan on sending them there when they are young for their early education (primary school and so on), so they can learn the language, culture and etc... high school in the states was a great experience for me, so i would be open to having my kids come to high school in the states so that the transition to college in the states is an easier one...


At Thursday, January 04, 2007 10:17:00 AM, Blogger ABBEY said...

Yes it is a difficult situation. If I was a mother I don't know what I'll do. Cus I don't want to "abandon" my kids in Nigeria while I'm here. I will be missing out on their formative years and such. So I'm not sure about that plan. But in theory, it is a good one.

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:09:00 AM, Blogger Nilla said...

Nigerians need to do something about Nigeria, and not just complain. Nigeria is the way it is because of Nigerians.
Nigerians can save Nigeria..and ofcourse we still need God.

Will be back to watch the video...I see that you update when we cry for updates huh?!

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:52:00 AM, Anonymous omohemi Benson said...

Hmm,Yes bro only the God in us can change the situation.
I live in Nigeria and hear all sorts of unpleasant stories about high school e.g shooting in schools. I think it is about finding the right school and the parent also playing an active role in the child's education(not just paying school fees and sending them to some fancy school).

This education palava is alot of headache!
Even school that we presume good here segregate the children,putting "Nigerian-British,British-Nigerian" labels in front of the children's classroom doors! What is that?@*!

I could go on and on... you see.
I also went to my Federal secondary school like 2 years ago and actually was in tears!


At Thursday, January 04, 2007 12:31:00 PM, Blogger Vera Ezimora said...

I have every intention of sending my *cough* I mean, OUR kids 2 Nigeria. While the education in skool here is great, the discipline is non existent. I believe there are good skools (education wise) in Nigeria. I don't want my kids going 2 skool in a place where fifth graders bring guns to skool and 5 year olds are accused of sexual assualt. Nope!

Oh, and let's not forget "God" has been banned from public skools. Yes, I know there r private skools, but at what cost?

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 1:12:00 PM, Blogger Calabar Gal said...

I went to a boarding school and I would personally want them to experience the good and bad, the thrills and downside of boarding too. So I am definetely sending my own kids back home to school. They could do with a little bit of discipline instilled into them which isnt available in large doses in schools in the diaspora.

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 2:49:00 PM, Anonymous azuka said...

I'm going right back to Nigeria after this so they'll just have to stay with me and weather things [if I ever get around to clicking with girls].

I think sending children to schools here would be a waste of time. They'll do every other thing at school except learn.

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 6:00:00 PM, Blogger DiAmOnD hawk said...

well seems like everyone here "plans" on sending their kids back home...If I dont live in Nigeria, my kids will not go to school there...there are plenty of great schools here in the States...and even though you dont hear of incidents of school violence in does take place...maybe on a different scale. If I lived in nigeria...I may just start my own school...Really takes each of one us to do start and pray that others will continue...the educational system in Nigeria has always been something I want to tackle...and each year...takes me closer to that reality

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 7:18:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

which twango nonsense be this?! whatever happened to youtube Naijabloke my ex?!?!? I'm gonna move my kids up and down... lol.. one year in paris... two years in germany... three years in Nigeria.. .they'll have a well-rounded education that way... and the best of both worlds?!?! I have no bloody clue what i'm talking about... I say she should them there for high school and bring em back for uni... that should work!

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 7:31:00 PM, Blogger Lee said...

Hmm tough!
Depends on where life takes us. The only reason I'd want them to go back to Nigeria for their education is understand and learn more about the culture, language etc. That being said, its another issue again as regards the social stratification when it comes to choosing good schools in Nigeria.
Its tough, but when we get to the river, we shall cross it.:)

Happy New Year!

At Thursday, January 04, 2007 8:27:00 PM, Blogger Jaycee said...

Funny enough I was reflecting on the same thing a while ago. I really was mad abt what I heard concerning some high schools in the United States (including children shooting each other), that when I reflected on my good experiences in high school back in the day, I seriously was considering sending my children back. But then again, I don't want them to be without their parents cos I know I def will be working here for a good while as a I'm reconsidering.

At Friday, January 05, 2007 12:05:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love the way he smiles
I love the way he laughs
I love the way he walks, talks
I love the way he grins at me like he won the lottery
I love the way he gets angry
I love the way he looks at me like he wants to implant himself in me
I love the way he speaks my native language to me
I love the way he says “Baby, when you piss me off, make me really angry, I don’t want to see you, because when I do I get all silly and stupid”
I love the way he talks dirty to me
I love the way he loves to shock me
I love the way he makes me feel like a lady and a freak at the same time
I love the way he makes me gasp when he slides into me
I love the way he makes me scream when he slams his dick into me
I love his expression when he enters me “Im in heaven”
I love the way he whispers love talk in my ear when he is in me
I love the way he commands me to do some freaky shit in the bedroom
I love the way he holds me and cuddles me like I am his last life line
I love the way he acts like a baby when he wants to be cuddled
I love the way he touches me, like rare jewels to be savored and worshiped
I love the way he eats me like I am his last meal
I love the way he loves me, just for me
I love the way he makes me laugh,
I love the way he loves me
I love the way he cares for me
I just love him plain and simple

I hate the fact that he is no more around
I hate the fact that we are no more together
I hate the fact that I miss him every damn day
I hate the fact that he has spoilt me for other men
I hate the fact that I love him so much and will never stop
I hate the fact that he is in my head
I hate the fact that how I can love him so much and hate him at the same time.

At Friday, January 05, 2007 3:04:00 AM, Blogger SapphireAster said... the above written for you?
Anyways...\i know it sounds good to have kids go to nigeria for high school..a lot of my friends say they will do that but I will not send my kids to Nigeria if I am not there...maybe I'll change my mind later o but for now thats my stance.
I think I will send them to Nigeria almost every summer for 3 months to stay with their cousins sha...abi I no try? \but I also feel there's more I want my kids to see of the world beyond Nigeria and US sha...

Check back with my when my kids start growing lol..\i'll know better then.

At Friday, January 05, 2007 6:59:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i don't think i'd send my kids to school in nigeria if i am not there...

hmmmm've got jokes ehn? lol..."Love ya blog" too. pssshhhhh!!!

BTW, are you sure you are NOT ijebu?

At Friday, January 05, 2007 8:16:00 AM, Blogger Elle Woods said...

Truth is....boarding house has always looked like just didnt know cos u werent an outsider.
Oh im def sending my kids...if i ever have any.Am not hte only one thats gonna experience carrying a 6" bucket of water.

At Friday, January 05, 2007 8:51:00 AM, Blogger Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

The one and only luff Dr. In as much as i want my kids to understand and experience the Nigerian culture fully, i still don't think i'll send 'em to school in Nigeria if i'm not there. I think parents should be there for their kids especially in their formative years. Nobody can train ur child better than how u would. The environment here, the morals and all is really whacked, if not lacking sef. Then again, what do i know, things may change.

At Friday, January 05, 2007 1:05:00 PM, Blogger Desola said...

Which children are you contemplating sending to Naija ehn? Which ones? My own shidren? Oh, so you want them out of the way for that sisi pelenge people say they see you with abi? No way, they are staying put here in Yankee in their father's house! I will show you pepper!

Anyway, wassup bro, how far now? I missed you so mush o.

Hope you had a swell holiday.

At Friday, January 05, 2007 1:38:00 PM, Anonymous belle said...

dang Naijabloke! you've got the woman (in the poem) open like that? lol

At Friday, January 05, 2007 1:46:00 PM, Blogger Life through rose-tinted glasses said...

hah! lucky u've updated i was about to give u grief lol!!

its cool if ur friend wants to send her kids to high school in naij only thing is she should choose carefully..

...and how are u babe lol! take care

At Friday, January 05, 2007 3:21:00 PM, Blogger Beautifully Human said...

at the end of the day I think wherever I send my kids to school, I must be there with them. Its important ,as cherub said, to be present in their formative years.
** hiss** wats up with this twango thing? I couldnt watch the clips!

At Friday, January 05, 2007 6:22:00 PM, Blogger The Life of a Stranger called me said...

I agree with Xoxo - If I want to send my kids to naija - I will also pack my things and go there too. Children need constant support. I Love my mum so, becasue everytime we came home she was our first port of call if school had given us a blow. That for one is one of the reasons why we did well in school (obviously with the help of GOD), but my mum helped us to talk our problems out before we went on to play games or sleep or eat.

So if you are seriously considering sending your children to study in nigeria, you should also be prepared to go with me. As for me, where my children are you will find me also (obviously with the permission of my husband).

At Friday, January 05, 2007 9:56:00 PM, Blogger Lady A said...

She should send her children. The experience is priceless alone. They could also network while they are there. My girlfriend sent her 5yr old child to Nigeria for school (don't remember where). It was bitter/sweet for her. However her hubby both agreed it would be better for their daughter.

At Saturday, January 06, 2007 8:47:00 AM, Blogger confusednaijagirl said...

i would send my kids back home for highschool without a doubt. i think its the school you decide to send them too in naija that really matters. i am scared of schools here even the catholic private ones.

At Sunday, January 07, 2007 1:06:00 AM, Anonymous azuka said...

By the way, oga Bloke, your wife has been putting the moves on me. I tell am say I no want oh!

I'm reporting her officially because she's been threatening other hopefuls.

At Sunday, January 07, 2007 6:15:00 AM, Blogger hook,line,sinker+fisherman said...

great post..'s one of them issues that keeps me up at night! let me add that there's a second chapter to this post and that is a need to address the current content & delivery methodology of learning!
but like they say.. peolple will live up to or down to the expectations u have of them.... and the environment you subject them to has a bearing on the message they perceive(even when this is not actually the case)

At Sunday, January 07, 2007 1:11:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I live in nigeria and I was privileged to attend one of the FGGC but pls those schools are nothing to write home about now ! and pls if u know u want to send ur kids back to nigeria pls pack ur bags and come home too !
these schools have different issues as well . it was first in my school (fggc) in 1989 that i heard of LESBIANISM and it was in practise full swing so what are we talking about . We must all try to teach our children in the way of the Lord so they would not depart from it when they grow up . the so called British school , French high , American curriculum ,private ,boys only girls only , catholic, Adventist ,Pentecostal etc. does not guarantee success if u know what is going on here u'll be SHOCKED ! we have to be there for our kids my parents were there for me !
Ten eyes cannot be like ur eyes -this a popular Yoruba saying

At Monday, January 08, 2007 11:45:00 AM, Blogger Biodun said...

Yep naija educational system is jsut getting worse unfortunately. I dont know about sending kids back 2 naija for high skool, pls
Ok, why do I have to join this thingy to view the videos bah, sucks, ok I will do it!

At Monday, January 08, 2007 7:08:00 PM, Blogger Lee said...


At Monday, January 08, 2007 7:39:00 PM, Blogger kulutempa said...

there ARE good schools in nig, but yeah, you have to look, and they're well expensive. that being said, you're absolutely right about the appalling state of education in that country. i wonder when things are going to improve, man.

At Tuesday, January 09, 2007 5:31:00 AM, Blogger 36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGS said...

have every intention of sending my kids, oh sorry i mean i dont have to send them i bloddy live here While the education in skool abroad is great, there is abosulutely no discipline. there r still fantastic schols in Nigeria though, but the only thing is i cant send them to uni here, i dont want them to be just roudning of uni at 29 due to strikes and all that.

At Tuesday, January 09, 2007 9:01:00 PM, Blogger Naijalove said...

funny people posting here raduatedfrom naija schls yrsss ago, and their notion of the schls are how they left them. Pls dont wait for naija schl or any schl for that matter to TRAIN your children! Thats how you'll send you ashawo Paulina home at 13, and wonder why you are a grandma 2yrs later. She'll have more of an opportuntity to run lose in naija. Do u really think auntie Ngozi that u send money to, can go to the schl and check up on here every day?
Na so my mama send me go some FGGC schl like this that she swore was good, didnt realize just how backward it was till she came to see me and I was about to die, even she had to cry for me. I loved it, but my kids will be wherever I'm at, if na Timbuktu so be it!

At Tuesday, January 09, 2007 10:26:00 PM, Blogger Vera Ezimora said...

Baby, oya update now ehn. It's been five days...almost six. Update pls!

At Wednesday, January 10, 2007 1:14:00 PM, Blogger Eagle's Nest!!! said...

How have you been, my guy?

Elementary education in Nigeria is the way to go!


At Thursday, January 11, 2007 8:15:00 AM, Blogger 4wardnfiaca said...

it doesn't matta wia u r, dia will olwes b gud schs and bad schs, so u will have to make a choice. as for me, all my children will attend a high sch in naija, and chop the occasional cane like i did...

@ the 1st anonymous...
u want my shrink's number? i fit recommend u o. and if u no want my own, i sabi plenti ppls wey get shrinks 2.

At Thursday, January 11, 2007 8:47:00 AM, Blogger Mona said...

I hardly come to ur blog but when I do I'm amazed, u talk abt a lot of sensible stuff...hope u had a great new yr...

A lot of ppl r thinkin of sendin their kids to Nig for secondary school come to think of it - to get that grounding I guess..before they become born throways like the rest of em on this island

p.s. that video didn't come up (girl fight) and i will come here more often xxx

At Thursday, January 11, 2007 5:06:00 PM, Blogger Teva said... don old o! Your friend dey send her pickin go secondary school, wetin you dey do??? LOL
Dont mind me jare...I've decided to pick on you full time this year! Enjoy!

BTW UPDATE ya blog!!

At Thursday, January 11, 2007 5:59:00 PM, Blogger Nigerican said...

I MISSED U, Happy belated Newyear dear.May this year be better than all the other years. And oh yah once u're friend figuers out what school she wants to send her kids to she should go for it ,as long as she has good family back at home to help watch her kids as well.The school system doesn't suck that bad ,i went thru it graduated in 2001(private school not public though) and i'm finding school here to be real easy.It's a great experience either way.

At Friday, January 12, 2007 12:50:00 PM, Blogger temmy tayo said...

The school sysytem In Nigeria isnt that bad. Well, one can still get quality education form all the private schools around. I dont think i wnat my kids to study in the UK or US in their formative years.

At Friday, January 12, 2007 8:57:00 PM, Blogger Vera Ezimora said...

Bloke, update!!!

At Saturday, January 13, 2007 7:06:00 AM, Blogger 4wardnfiaca said...


At Monday, January 15, 2007 11:21:00 AM, Blogger Naija Sapphire said...

I'm actually proud of our school system. I think it's way better and more intense than the american one

At Tuesday, January 16, 2007 8:42:00 AM, Blogger The Life of a Stranger called me said...

See How I missed your birthday. Happy belated birthday NB.

At Saturday, March 10, 2007 8:46:00 PM, Anonymous truth said...

ONB? paris?....Nigeria?...etc.Don't you think you'd be, well, Overwhelmed. I think high school back hope makes sense ONLY if one's gonna camp back there with the kids. 'else they will be no different from the kids here flaunting guns in sch.


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